Fighting & Aging

Fighting & Aging

Today I listened to Justin Long’s podcast, with Kristen Bell as his guest.

Kristen spoke about a few things that I really liked - relationships/fighting and “knowing your lane”/aging.

Kristin and Dax both seem to be pretty open about their relationship and I’ve really admired some things I’ve they’ve shared.  I know that Dax had mentioned that they went (maybe still go?) to couples counseling. They had started going pretty early in their relationship - they weren’t having problems, but proactively started couples counseling in order to keep them from having major problems (or at least enabling them to better handle problems in their relationship.)

Dax and Kristen fight and are open about it, which I find admirable.  I’m not a fighter, maybe it just isn’t my thing, maybe because my parents didn’t fight in front of me, who knows.  While fighting gets a bad connotation, it can be healthy and Dax and Kristen seem to be able to fight well. Kristin mentioned that when they were first together they kind of made a pact - “we’re on the same team,” and she said that even if they disagree, are mad, frustrated, etc. they remember that they are ultimately on the same team and that enables them to not get as hurt/angry.  They also fight fair - no deep, mean things said, etc.

Kristen also talked about how she “knows her lane,” which I loved.  Essentially she talked about how she is good at knowing what suits her, what she is good at etc.  She knows she isn’t good at everything and that is okay. . she knows what kind of acting roles she is good in and focuses more on roles that suit her.  I really loved though her talking about this in terms of aging. She said she had her years of looking good in a bikini, now she is older, a mother of two, she doesn’t have to be in a bikini.  As we get older it makes sense for us to be able to look at things we used to do and appreciate those things, but also recognize and accept if/when we are no longer able to do so.